ColinFraser
Masterpiece
You guys are going to hate this:
Ficus Wanted
- Thread starter Redwood Ryan
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Cadillactaste
Neagari Gal
Lol that only works...if one chooses to open the link.
Cadillactaste
Neagari Gal
That is just Good Common, Safe Sense...
Now that is Cool, no I am not OCD, but I will definitely give that a try!
Cadillillactaste, Thank you for you open honesty, it helps others to better understand. The Human Mind and it's working is fascinating. To quote Robert Fulagram from (Everything you need to know you learned in kindergarten) "Our Minds are as different on the inside as each person appears on the outside" something like that... but it is so true
True...about the good common sense. But, a lot of OCD is with safety in mind to a degree. Controlling a situation...
The alphabet thing I'm not sure it's OCD...or something to amuse myself. But...it's something I do.
I guess I didn't think anything of sharing...other than to offer Ryan some encouragement. I've came so far...but it's pushing yourself out of your comfort zone. And learning...the world still goes on.I can go to sleep with a few dirty dishes in the sink now. Lol does that make me a slob? No...it means I go to bed earlier than the rest of the family. And...they might want a snack...and that is okay. I used to force myself to stay up and be the last to bed. So the dishes were done...but...it's okay. To wake with a few in your sink. It means...you have a family and are blessed.
But with bonsai...it pushed my comfort zone. I think Adair and I went round on...bonsai is wiring. You take it off...and put it on. But I don't think he grasp my OCD. And what went on in my head. But I pushed through...and remind myself...with each tree I wire, I get better so I am bettering the tree...even if it's not exactly the same...I'm taking it further. I stress way less than at the beginning. So I persevered...and can only get stronger on winning that aspect of OCD.
I also understand what Ryan faces is real to him...but his love for bonsai...may help lesson the tendency of some of his OCD issues if he lets his love for the hobby persevere. Like I said...my son's friend had issues with our dogs...because they slobber after they drink water and germs. But his mom bought him a horse...he learned to muck stalls. He learned the enjoyment for horses...was stronger than to wash his hands as frequently while at the barn. I'm sure he still finds daily quirks as I call them. But he's overcame being in the grip of feeling oppressed by germs as he once had. His hands look great...instead of raw and chapped. So finding something that offers one a passion that takes and pushes one past their comfort zone. For one with OCD...is one way to push through some of ones quirks as I call the OCD tendencies. But I don't stress it...one can't. Life is to short to allow things to eat your lunch.
Cadillactaste
Neagari Gal
One of the biggest things I think is to not care what others think. That especially with your case being a side effect...that you overcame a lot with the surgery alone. But...some live with the same issues and can't point to what caused it. You have that to help ground you...in a sense. But...find what you love and challenge yourself. If bonsai is it...I hope you can persevere and overcome to the point it is enjoyable. If anything...if you find you need to part with your collection because it's overwhelming. I challenge you to keep only one. Push through because you love it.
Short story then I will be finished:
My son...slightly OCD with attention to details. In preschool until he reached first grade...the teachers let his OCD control the situation. In first grade he butted heads with the same craft project that previous teachers let him slide on. That was gluing things to a paper with a turkey on it. In the past he complained it would touch the lines. So he was aloud to color instead of gluing. So in first grade the teacher passed out froot loops. He colored his turkey. He and her went round and round...he was made to stay in at recess and glue cereal to his turkey. Then...to top it off...she hung them on the wall for grandparents day. He came home and ask if he could pull a few off each day. I told him she would eventually notice his bare turkey. So finally when he was aloud to bring it home. He hung it on his bedroom wall. Never touching the cereal to remove any of it. It was a good learning lesson for him...that it was out of his comfort zone...but it was...okay. So...challenging ones self...not on everything. But little things...can be a good growing experience. What it gives you when you gain that ounce of control is priceless.
Wishing you the best @Redwood Ryan ... I can't say I know what you feel. But I'm glad you have come to terms with it. Sounds like it doesn't eat your lunch so to speak. That is having victory as well.
bonsaibp
Omono
I have a nice one on Bonsai Auctions on Facebook
Cadillactaste
Neagari Gal
Redwood Ryan
Masterpiece
Anthony
Imperial Masterpiece
Wonder if Ryan needs to grow mame' ficus or just mame' ?
Good Day
Anthony
Good Day
Anthony
sorce
Nonsense Rascal
F U Ryan!
I'm sniffin this giant April Fools set up!
Lolol!
Sorce
I'm sniffin this giant April Fools set up!
Lolol!
Sorce
Redwood Ryan
Masterpiece
I saw that one, but with a reserve it's a little out of my price range.
Vin
Imperial Masterpiece
There's no reserve and the high bid is currently $88. Are you looking at the correct one?
Cadillactaste
Neagari Gal
Vin
Imperial Masterpiece
My mistake. I thought it was the ficus carica and it wasn't even Robert it was Nel Son.
Cadillactaste
Neagari Gal
Oh...I just put his name into the search on the auction to see his listings. So Nel Son has the cheaper...is it as cool as yours? Yours has so much character. Not that the other wasn't...nice material. Yours has a more feminine looks. And I'm drawn for the most part...to feminine looking trees.
Redwood Ryan
Masterpiece
So the tree that Nel Son posted is more 'fig' than the Ficus that are commonly used. Carica is the Ficus that produces those big edible figs. The leaves do reduce some, but ramification can be difficult. It can work as decent bonsai, but I prefer material that's more suitable like microcarpa or salicaria.
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