I usually let replacement apex grow unpruned for the first year or until it is around 1/2 the thickness I need. Then chop down to 1 or 2 nodes. You now have a half healed big cut and a new, smaller scar.
The following year allow another new leader to run until it is around half the thickness of the new leader which could be the whole year of maybe only part of the growing season then chop again.
Grow cycles gradually get shorter and the replacement leaders thinner until you are happy with the result.
Even though you are chopping, the new leader is still thickening with each growth cycle.
At this stage, taper is at least as important as thickness.
I gauge the process in relative thickness rather than years or seasons.