Rob, this is gonna be a great tree and you live in hornbeam country! I'm sorry I didn't see this thread earlier.
I really prefer the view that you've been considering as the front, because that large trunk move backwards when viewed from the other side doesn't feel welcoming.
That large top most branch going straight up implies that it's going to become a much larger tree, and you've said that's not your intention. I would cut that off, especially since (if that's the front) it presents as 3 branches in a row coming off the top.
I wondered about tilting it to the left, but this seems unnatural to a hornbeam in nature and would diminish the stateliness of a formidable tree.